What is the cure to the never ending cycle of disappointment I'm feeling? did this all start in my childhood? what is wrong here? how can I fix this? I really don't care about anything other than shaking this terrible feeling of failure. Is this a spiritual thing ?, Is it me?. Please Help
Are you asking yourself these questions? I am going to lay out some possibilities of what you might be doing wrong and why you do what you do.
THE MAIN MISTAKE THAT PEOPLE MAKE IS NOT BEING ABLE TO ADMIT TO YOURSELF YOU WASTED SOME TIME WITHOUT FEELING YOU ARE OWED SOMETHING! IT'S ACTUALLY OK TO JUST MOVE ON WITHOUT FEELING THE NEED TO GET EVEN OR SOME KIND OF REDEMPTION. YOU CAN FORGIVE YOURSELF AND OTHERS IF YOU KNOW THE TRUTH!
The truth is usually very simple and not complicated at all as a matter of fact it's sometimes so simple it's hard to believe. Example did you forget you saw the red flags?, are you looking for the love you never got from your parents in your spouse or partner and not realizing it and he/she is failing miserably in your eyes because they don't know who to be with you, don't know what you want or get the constant reassurance you 've been looking for is more than they can handle.
ESPECIALLY IN A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU SAW SOME RED FLAGS YOU CHOSE TO IGNORE IT'S BECAUSE YOU WANTED TO MAKE THINGS WORK AND KNEW YOU WERE GOING AGAINST WHAT YOUR HEART WAS TELLING YOU.
why are you not trusting your judgment about things? maybe because what you want to believe goes against what is in front of you you think it's easier to work with what you've got, basically you may be lying to yourself much more than you have been lied to. You try to mold and shape people into what you want them to be is this because the way they are you find unacceptable and not someone you could be with or love. The truth is not as bad as you make it seem. It might be a good idea to be the one you wish to see in the world and everything else will open up, the red carpet will roll out and this is your path to the life you wish to have.
You can't make mistakes, your mind is an amazing mathematical machine, it works just like a computer whenever we feed a computer with the right information it will give us the right answers this is also how your mind works, but let's say I set up my computer with a bunch of lies, assumptions, misleading it in every way imaginable? along with changing my mind from time to time. This is human this is what happens and how we end up getting lost . I imagine the whole PC thing would just break down and it would look as sad, angry and insecure as some of us might be feeling right now.
Many of us go through tough times, the loss of a loved ones, a break up or divorce, an abusive or neglectful spouse or family and in many cases all of the above. How the F%#ck did all this happen?. Why me? my answer is why not you? these are things that happen to other people right? but not you. Sound like good old reliable chiming in called ego. The unforgiving, unrealistic, persecution aka demon of the mind not your friend egotistical maniac beating you down
A reading with a professional/experienced psychic will be able to point out the issues that may be interrupting or blocking your peace of mind and living a content life
Many of us go through life without getting to the root of our problems for multiple reasons and in some cases there's more than one problem it can be a few, but at the end of the day how we respond and deal with the problems is what's going to make the difference in how our lives turn out. Let's forget about the years into the future! we can change how tomorrow will be if we do what we should now or even on the day of by doing some things differently and thinking about things differently. I will get to that but for right now I would like for you to
ask yourself some of the questions below and see if this sounds like you
#1.Trying to make up the difference from what you did not get in your childhood attempting to build that family you never had!
A. you're setting yourself up for failure, yes you can love love love your family and be the very best partner, mother, daughter you can be but your attempting to control outcomes or have an expectation of people responding to you in a certain way, people have moods one day you get exactly what you were hoping for and the next the complete opposite your mood will be the same up and down based on the responses of others, you will be unstable and reactive.
try to be proactive and hold your ground and set healthy boundaries read the multiple blog post here on how to do this
#2. Making yourself worth it, indispensable, earning and working for the love that should have come to you for free!.
A. If you don't get what you want in return for these efforts you will become resentful of the people you tried so hard to get love from, the love your searching for will become bitterness in the end. Do things for others when it also brings you joy as well, never go above and beyond doing what isn't coming from your heart because anything beyond that will make you feel that others should feel obligated or have an expectation in return. It's always better to give than to receive. People cannot read your mind and know exactly what you are looking for from them
Stop assuming that they should assume.
#3 I can fix this person in 5 years flat .I am that good, he/she is showing a bit of potential in time this will be the love of my life it's just not right now.
A. What if this is not true? what if the person you see in front of you now stays how they are is this not acceptable in years to come?
If you don't want what you see in front of you drop it!
#4 what I want will never happen for me or maybe it doesn't exists I need to lower my standards and expectations in love and people in general.
A. Become what you wish to see in the world everything begins with you. Stop concerning yourself so much about what other people are doing any relationship involves compromise. Compromise and lowering standards look a bit like cousins but they are not the same. Learn to love everyone in a way, they might not be the one for you but that doesn't mean you can't love people because we are all in this together and all have our crosses to bare. Life as as sad and miserable as we make it let's try to see the beauty in all living things.
Don't create a sad existence the loss of hope for better days ahead would make anyone sad, hope for better days makes us human.
#5 I will bury my head in the sand and make believe nothing is wrong
A. You can't do that forever, Nip troubles at the bud. maybe you can do something to make things better but you decided to avoid or ignore instead, this might come back to bite you.I know so many people who through in the towel and only lived to regret it later. If it doesn't sound good it probably isn't , If it sounds too good to be true well this is actually a sign that there is something that can be done to address your issues but you might be looking in the wrong the wrong place or to the wrong person basically ( close but no cigar) in most cases
#6 Walking on eggshells not to rock the boat in your relationships.
A. You will eventually blow up like a bomb, maybe if you just addresses things while they were happening they would not have gotten so far out of control. If you are in a relationship and this person makes you fear speaking your mind or opinions your with the WRONG PERSON! but think deeply on this it might just be your fear and nothing your partner is doing wrong
#7 if he/she doesn't do X Y and Z I will never be happy
A. (WARNING THAT'S CO-DEPENDENCY)
#8 I have given up
A. Maybe it might be wiser to seek help when you need it because life will go on even if you choose to quit on being happy there is nothing more important than living a happier life and pursuing it and enjoy the journey. Instead of having a bunch of expectations of life why not just enjoy it!. Have fun for a change, travel, challenge yourself in the business you'd feel passionate about instead of just leaving it on the shelf, take risk. Basically Live!
#9 I will never love or trust anyone again I am done!
And how far will this take you if you isolate or show yourself as a closed off person to everyone they will give up on you sooner than you think also and you will be lonely.contradiction to what you might've been told love does have it's limits. Love can live in someone but sometimes the one that loves you can feel like their just wasting time and will go
#10 I'll drown myself in work or hobbies.
How can you heal like that? the thoughts you don't want will keep popping in your head you will not get rid of it until you address it.
Contact me for help on these issues and know that you can be healed from these pitfalls, fears and anxiety. I have helped many over there years that feel lost and struggle moving forward in life.