From episode: Life Observations Psychic Christine Wallace Mystical Charms And Things
have realized that a lot of people are living in fear and always end up making a lot of fear -based decisions. And what happens is, is when you start making all of your decisions fear -based and then you, and not following your passions because you're afraid it's not going to work or blah, blah, blah, whatever the case may be. What ends up happening is you are in survival mode and you're not expected to have success when you are in survival mode. Okay, you're not thriving, you're surviving. So the objective of fear -based decisions and survival mode is to pretty much, you know, keep your head above water for like, you're always right on the line, like working, working, working really hard to keep your head above water. Now that can apply to multiple fronts of our lives. For example, like love. So many women and some men, you know, there are men that do this too. It's not a woman thing, but the reason that I talk more about women than men is because most of the people that I see are women about, you know, I don't know, 80, 90 % are women and my business, you know, that's the audience that I cater to. But, you know, a lot of women and like I said, some men feel that they need to prove themselves in a relationship, prove themselves worthy of being in a relationship. Basically, the relationship turns into like a job and you're looking for a promotion because that would be the same type of thing that we would be doing in a job if we were looking to get promoted. We would really, really, really put ourselves out there going above and beyond the call of duty and basically not being ourselves and going the double, triple, quadruple, extra mile. So with that being said, you know, after we do that and we reach a point of feeling deserving, then find we ourselves in a position that we have given so much more investment into this relationship, much more than our partner. And then we end up becoming resentful and then, you know, you're going to want that other person to be working really hard to prove themselves to you. Now look at the vicious circle we just started. And I do want to remind you that anything that starts, that the base of whatever it won't work, okay? Good things don't come out of negative things that we do and problems that we make for ourselves without even realizing. So how did we end up slipping into this, doing this kind of thing anyway? Well, it happened because we were afraid to be alone. So this is why we worked double, triple, quadruple just to help a relationship stick together and work and do whatever we can to compensate for whatever the other person's responsibilities are because we have a fear of being alone. And also what ends up happening under these circumstances is you might end up with someone that you see a lot of red flags in the person and you ignore all of these red flags because you don't want to be alone. You have a fear of being alone. You have a fear of abandonment.